For the pain and the joy
One of the eclectic selection of blogs I am in the habit of reading regularly is that of the sassy and irreverent 'Dooce', alias Heather B. Armstrong. Her post yesterday describes her feelings on the death this week of an aunt; it is uncharacteristically touching and sincere. It was a post that make me pause for a long time after reading it.
In the time since I began reading weblogs, I've realized that when it comes to writing about death, bloggers tend to do it very well . I am grateful to many for sharing their very personal and emotional experiences in recent months. While knowing it is therapeutic for them to do so, I am aware that for those of us reading there is an opportunity to gain a little more in understanding, insight and compassion from each one.
It will be a long time before I forget the evening, very late, in June this year, when I came across Klondike Kate's just posted, distraught account of the sudden loss of her husband a few days before: The Longest Day of the Year. There were as yet no comments; and there I was sitting alone in front of my screen on the other side of the world, listening to this stranger as she keened and mourned the loss of her man. It was real ... and I was feeling with her and for her.
Blogs are full of farewells to the dying, and mourning for the dead. (with apologies to Longfellow)
So it's for the pain as well as the joy. That's what keeps me coming back to roam the blogosphere.



